Dating Advice, Perspective, and Real Conversations

Are you stuck in an endless first-date scenario? What I mean by that is—do you have a lot of first dates that don’t often blossom into a second? If your dating luck is running a bit thin, you need to consider your part in the situation. There could be a hundred reasons why a first…

It’s a distinctly human condition. Somehow, we just assume the people around us know what we’re thinking. Some even assume that everybody else thinks just like they do. But keep in mind, we’re all human. We are individuals with vastly different backgrounds, experiences, proclivities, likes, dislikes, etc., etc. In other words—stop thinking they know what…

Dating is not like it used to be. Friends aren’t introducing friends to their future spouses, and people aren’t dating people they met at a party. Today, dating is online. Singles scroll online dating sites and apps, hoping to come across a profile and photo of someone that piques their interest. It seems almost too…

Three months seems to be a turning point in many dating relationships. Things are going well, you’re having a ton of fun, and suddenly these thoughts creep in… is this serious? And where do we go from here? The three-month marker is, in most cases, when you’ll need to start having certain relationship conversations. None…

Jumping back into the dating pool isn’t easy after you’ve been off the market for a while. You have the desire to meet someone new, but it seems like a lot of work. Where do you start? What do you say? Dating can be fun, but it’s also highly stressful—especially if you’re the type of…

Life is busy these days. We are maxed for time, running on low energy, yet we want to find a loving and close relationship—but clearly, there is no time. How can you date if you have no time? Take a good look at your schedule and see where you are putting your energy. Is it…

So many people just jump into dating without much thought about it—and certainly without any type of plan. Every successful initiative needs planning. Yes, even dating! Think about it: How will you find the relationship you want if you don’t know what it is? How are you going to meet the partner you’re looking for…

Dating is often accompanied by skepticism, judgement, and reluctance. Often, instead of being open-minded when it comes to finding a relationship, we put in hard “no’s,” accompanied by self-sabotage. Yes, it’s true: when it comes to making the worst decisions about our love lives, we are our own worst enemy. We want to meet someone,…

Emotional triggers tend to get the best of us. Learning to recognise them will help you take control, so they don’t get in the way of your happiness. What Are Emotional Triggers? Put simply; emotional triggers are traumatic events from your past that continue to creep into your life today. Of course, it’s usually much…

Accountability. It’s part of being a grown-up. I know, no fun, right? You’re accountable at work, to your financial obligations, and to other commitments. When you give your word, there is an expectation you’re going to show up for the task and get behind it, do it right. But what about your dating relationships? Are…

Dating. Whether you love it or hate it, it all comes down to you. Maybe you’re frustrated because you keep meeting people you are interested in that don’t feel the same about you. Or perhaps you feel like the dating options out there are the bottom of the barrel. Sound familiar? If so, I want…

Before we dig deep into this topic, let me share that dating does take time. You need to—and should expect to—invest time for it to be successful. For most, dating is a searching process. You’re not just finding out about the other person in the equation; you’re also learning about yourself. Knowing ourselves is what…

As challenging as the past year has been for everybody, the pandemic has brought about many good things for many people. Take me, for example. Since the lockdowns began last year, I finally afforded myself the opportunity to manage my work/life balance, and I am so grateful. Yes, I was forced to do it. No,…

Do you ever wonder why you and your partner don’t see eye-to-eye on some things? You love each other madly, but when it comes to showing it, they don’t, can’t, or won’t give you what you need. It’s not because they don’t care, but it’s like you don’t even speak the same language in those…

Ego is undoubtedly a touchy subject. It’s about who people believe they are and how they feel about themselves—and nobody wants to know that it’s what may be getting in the way of finding love. If your ego is not in check, you could be unwittingly pushing people away. Everybody Has An Ego The ego…

If you’re the type of person who tends to fall fast for people you’re dating, you know what happens next. You get caught up in the whirlwind of romance and the idea of being in love—but often, it’s only that: a dream, an ideal. A fairy-tale! It’s not reality. The veil of newness clouds your…

It’s that time of year again—the much-anticipated (or more often dreaded) Valentine’s Day. I’m here to tell you Valentine’s Day is just another day. Yes, this matchmaker right here is telling you Valentine’s Day is no big deal! No. Big. Deal. Are you with me? Take a moment and breathe a big sigh of relief!…

If someone told you they were dating multiple people at the same time, how would you react? If you’re like many people, you’ll immediately jump to conclusions and think that this person must be either commitment-phobic or some kind of cheater. But what if we told you that dating a few people at the same…

It’s hard for most people to imagine being with someone who isn’t “their type.” It doesn’t feel comfortable or natural to them to even think about it. It might be because they don’t feel themselves, or they might be intimidated by the idea of venturing into unknown territory. If the above statements sound like you,…

These days, we’re working from home, having meetings online, and doing as many things as possible in the virtual realm. But what about dating? Is it possible to date virtually? The great thing about technology is that we have all the tools we need at our fingertips to make those connections without having to share…

As our collective reality trudges forward in the wake of COVID-19, what does it bode for those of us who are single and dating? Is it even possible to date safely during a pandemic? The answer is yes. You just need a little planning. Everybody’s Tolerance is Different Dating is a complicated dance at the…

All relationships have their ups and downs. It’s the nature of human interaction.There are good times, and there are bad times too. We all evolve at our own pace. When we’re in a relationship, we grow and change with our partner, so it’s inevitable to feel the highs and lows. It’s essential to recognise that…

We all have a past. For most of us, it’s not easy for us to share. Some people carry guilt, remorse, confusion, and secrets, and not everything is easy to understand. This makes for a challenging situation when we start a new relationship. To Share or Not To Share? When you consider sharing something with…

It isn’t unusual for couples to have a gap in their earnings. Unfortunately, for many people, this situation can cause an imbalance that might seem impossible to navigate. If you are experiencing relationship issues that stem from an earning gap, it’s important to know that you’re not alone. Money troubles are among the top three…

Prioritizing Your Partner for a Healthy, Happy Relationship It’s no secret that a healthy relationship is good for your children to see and be apart of. What more could you want then to have your kids want to emulate you for the love and caring you have for your spouse? Your children will grow up…

Legal separation is not a divorce.But, this does not mean a person who is separated cannot or should not date. There are a million reasons why they may not have taken that final step (divorce). But, just because they haven’t, it shouldn’t prevent them from being happy and moving on with their lives. What is…

We always encourage our clients to be open-minded about their potential partners. Some of our most successful matches have been between a client and a match that they least expected for themselves. Having trust in the matchmaking process is critical if you want to succeed. If you have come this far and have decided to…

After years of being single, when you decide it’s time to move on and start dating again, it opens up a whole new dimension in your life. But if your adult children are having a difficult time accepting the fact that you’re moving on, you might start to question yourself and your choices. You may…

… but got it together before she let it slip away

In ages past, choosing a life partner was so much easier. Ever wonder why that is? Mostly, it was easier because there were fewer ways to go about doing it. Plus, people seemed to be more open-minded in terms of getting to know someone over a period of time to see if there was a…

As a professional matchmaker, I sometimes ask myself: “Does this person actually want to meet someone? Or do they just want to tell themselves that they tried?” Do they want to make a serious effort to get to know themselves and see others as potential life partners? Or are they deciding well before the first…

Have you ever wondered what would happen if you were to take all of the suggested first-date advice and just throw it out the door? How would it be if, instead of asking fluffy questions that lead to a safe conversation, you just jumped right into the heavy, hard-hitting subjects? Would you even consider being…

Although it’s never easy to know just how to approach the subject, it’s a conversation that needs to happen: talking to our children about THEIR dating lives. No matter how you feel about it, it’s going to happen. One day, your child will not be so child- like anymore. Puberty, hormones, feelings, and all the talk and activity…

He’s just not into you, and that’s okay. Trust me, I’ve been there before. What I mean by that is, I have dated men (*ahem* … they acted more like boys!) and put 120 percent into what was really a hopelessly lame situation that was clearly going nowhere. Looking back, I think of all the…

Working with a professional matchmaker is a little different than just jumping into the dating pool. Face it: you’ve decided to work with a matchmaker because you don’t want to waste your time. You want quality results. What you may not have considered is that essentially, you will be marketing yourself as a commodity. While…

You’re a busy professional. Your time is valuable. Your schedule is so water-tight that there really isn’t a lot of wiggle room, even when it comes to your personal life. So, why is it that so many people insist on wasting their precious leisure time on something that isn’t working? Strictly A-Type problems   You’re…

You probably see a lot of articles about what a matchmaker can do for you, but did you ever wonder what we look for in a client?   Yes – we do have an ideal of the “perfect” client, and since the Match Me Canada brand is quality-minded, we tend to think that our clients…

Some people will put a lot of emphasis on physical attraction or a certain personality type when they are describing their perfect match. Physical attraction is a key characteristic of course, but even more importantly, you should be putting the emphasis on finding true friendship, because ultimately, you want to actually like your partner.   …

Do you even know what makes you attracted to someone else? Have you taken the time to pay attention to your needs as a person, and what you may need in a partner to create a successful relationship? Lack of self-insight and fairy-tale thinking is a leading cause why singles struggle with finding a partner…

Often in meetings with our new Match Me Canada matchmaking clients, I hear them speak about what a great catch they are, and how they want to meet someone who has as much confidence as they do. I believe it! I can see with my own eyes that they are sitting tall, and their powerful…

If you are in the market for a serious relationship and you haven’t considered dating outside of your age group, you might be missing out. Many women in their 20’s and 30’s actually prefer dating men who are 10 or more years older than they are, and there are plenty of good reasons why. Of…

Do you have a “height requirement” when it comes to dating? If so, you run the risk of never finding your perfect match. In our experience, many women are sticklers when it comes to the height of their matches. It is pretty crazy to hear this, actually, that some women will turn down a match…

Flirty, Confident & Fashionable – Picking your outfit for your first date is more important than you think. Creating a positive impression is crucial. Taking the time to find an outfit that gives a true impression of who you are is more important than you may consider. When it comes to picking out an outfit,…

Whether you are new to the dating scene or a veteran, figuring out the etiquette on how to act on a date can be frustrating. It should be simple but for some unknown reason common sense goes to the waste side when you step into date world.  It is time to reign in the crazy…

Dating is a wild frontier, and being a single dad in this world comes with its fair share of challenges – but along with those challenges come some incredible rewards that you might not have considered. If you have ever dated or considered dating a single dad, you may have had certain ideas about how…

I was on my way back from an event in Ottawa, and a client of mine called my cell phone wanting some advice on her current dating situation. I was in the passenger seat, so I was able to give her my undivided attention. She revealed that she was having a challenging time being herself…