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by Rebecca Cooper-Traynor

Skip The Texting: Phone Calls Offer Better Personal Connections

When you’re just starting to get to know one another, texting is never a good idea. Sure, it’s convenient, quick, and low-key, but it’s also very easy to have misunderstandings or to feel rejected or neglected.

Once you get to know each other better, you can decide how you want to interact. But for the first little while, skip the texts and pick up the phone. You’ll be so glad you did!

Missed Signals

Texts have a way of missing the mark. If you or the other person isn’t gifted at writing, what you’re attempting to say might come across as abrupt, too forward, or missing something entirely.

Plus, when you’re texting with someone, you don’t have their complete, undivided attention. If they are working, you might not get a response right away. Maybe they’re distracted with other things. A short, terse response doesn’t always sit right, but the motivation behind it could be completely innocent. Either way, it’s easy to blow things out of proportion and read something into the message (or lack of it) that doesn’t exist.

Here are a few things you will and won’t get from texts:

  • Humor or emotion. Unless the text is liberally peppered with emoji’s, it’s difficult to get a read on some statements. As a result, feelings get hurt, or “explain this” conversations happen when they shouldn’t really have to. Hearing a person’s voice alleviates all that anxiety. The meaning won’t be lost, and if there is any tension, you’ll be in a better position to interpret it for what it is.
  • Creating conflict when there is none. Did you know that 80 percent of all human interaction is non-verbal? When you can’t hear the voice or see the face delivering it, all that nuance is lost.
  • Relationships get stronger when you talk on the phone. Talking to each other strengthens the bond you are developing, especially in your relationship’s early stages. Texting is a flatline, whereas a phone convo is more dimensional. Hearing your mate’s tone, inflection, and reactions help you get to know them better.
  • Higher quality connections. So many couples struggle with communication problems. Misinterpreted texts only make this worse, leaving behind bad feelings and even resentment that often end up being brought into arguments.

Making the Effort
There’s enormous value to be gained when both of you make an effort to speak over the phone. You are showing each other that you’re willing to take the time; you can hear each other’s voice, allowing for conversations to build organically and to experience the connection and chemistry you have together.

There’s much science to prove that texts dehumanize the human connection. So, if you are serious about dating and finding your true match, you need to make a commitment to yourself and your partner: skip the texting and opt for phone calls instead.

The connection you make in those critical early days of dating sets the stage for everything that’s to come. Make it good, make it meaningful, and show each other who you truly are inside. Phone calls might seem a little old-fashioned in this day and age, but you’ll be glad you made the effort.

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