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by Rebecca Cooper-Traynor

How Dating More Than One Person Gets You Closer to Finding Your Match

If someone told you they were dating multiple people at the same time, how would you react? If you’re like many people, you’ll immediately jump to conclusions and think that this person must be either commitment-phobic or some kind of cheater.

But what if we told you that dating a few people at the same time might actually get you closer to your true match?

It’s true. Dating a few people simultaneously is the best way to gauge the quality of your connection. It stops you from rushing into things too quickly, and it opens your eyes to new possibilities. You might even find your match faster this way!

Seeing Multiple People Helps You Avoid Dating Traps
It’s so easy to fall into a trap when you’re actively dating. When you have a physical attraction to someone, it tends to take over everything else. Then you find yourself in a situation where you’re not feeling any emotional and mental stimulation whatsoever. It doesn’t feel right, it’s not long-lasting, and it’s certainly not the way to start off a healthy relationship.

Sure, a pretty face is nice to look at, but finding a genuine love connection is so much more than that!

We always recommend that our members stay open to dating a few people—casually—at the same time. This allows you to explore your connections more deeply, see what kind of vibe there is between you, and compare your feelings about each person. When you approach dating this way, it’s easier to recognize a genuine bond, and ultimately, it will bring much better results.


Being Honest With Yourself

Most people have a list of dating must-haves that they impose on just about everyone they choose to date. While it’s fine to have a few goals and deal-breakers, the problem with this approach is that you’re limiting yourself, and you might just miss out on an amazing connection.


When you date more than one person, you don’t have to be as choosy. You also don’t have to make up your mind about the person right away. Taking it slowly and casually gives you more chance to really get to know them, and you’ll find out more about what you really want and need in the process.


It’s a common theme in the dating realm – we all tend to learn a lot about ourselves from failed relationships. You’ll learn the same things when you date a few people at the same time, but without having to make a long-term commitment.


Taking It To The Next Level
Of course, dating multiple people does not mean you’re intimate with them all. Once you and your match become intimate, you need to let the other people you are dating know that you are unavailable. Dating more than one person is okay as long as it’s casual, but being intimate with more than one person kind of defeats the purpose.

Safe Dating in 2020 and Beyond
These days, dating even one person might seem a bit tricky, but it doesn’t have to be.


Keep it casual, and take a step-by-step approach:


  • Take your time; connect over the phone first. Get to know each other before you take it any further.
  • Once you both feel that you want to continue on, you can start going on video dates.
  • If the video dates deepen your connection, you can start talking about in-person dates.


Dating is a bit tricky right now because of the global pandemic, but with some creativity, commitment to the cause (your heart), and a little strategy, it is possible to make meaningful connections. As always, if you need a little support, we’re here for you with date coaching, relationship coaching, and professional matchmaking services you can trust.


Reach out today to connect with us, and take that first step towards finding your match!