Let’s Talk About “Potential”
You meet someone. There’s chemistry. They’re charming, smart, into you… mostly.
But something feels off.
They’re inconsistent. Unclear. One foot in, one foot out.
You start asking yourself:
“Are they just scared? Do they need time? Or are they just… not ready?”
Here’s the truth: relationship readiness isn’t a vibe — it’s a pattern. And if you know what to look for, you’ll save yourself months (or years) of emotional confusion.
Why This Matters So Much
As a dating coach and matchmaker, I’ve worked with thousands of clients across Toronto and Canada who kept attracting emotionally unavailable people — not because they were doing something wrong, but because they didn’t know the difference between attraction and availability.
Being drawn to someone doesn’t mean they’re equipped for love. So let’s get clear.
5 Signs Someone Is Actually Ready for a Relationship
1. They’re emotionally consistent
You don’t feel like you’re chasing them. You don’t feel anxious when they don’t text. They show up when they say they will. They initiate, respond, and follow through.
If you’re always unsure where you stand? That’s a red flag — not mystery.
2. They talk about the future — and include you in it
No, they don’t need to propose in month one. But they’re open about what they’re looking for — and they check in to see if you’re aligned.
If their future talk never includes you, or they’re constantly “just seeing what happens,” they’re not ready.
3. They’re self-aware and can name their past patterns
Someone ready for love has looked at their stuff. They don’t blame all their exes. They can talk about what they learned, what they struggled with, and what they’re working on.
Emotional maturity is sexy — and essential.
4. They know how to handle discomfort
Relationships bring up stuff. Someone who’s ready won’t ghost the minute there’s tension or pull away the second they feel vulnerable. They lean in. They stay curious. They want to work through things, not avoid them.
5. They’re dating with intention, not boredom
If they’re just filling time, avoiding loneliness, or addicted to the validation loop of swiping — they’re not relationship-ready. Someone serious about love is dating on purpose — not just passing time.
Here’s What to Remember
You can’t “make” someone ready. You can’t love them into showing up. And it’s not your job to convince someone to want what you want.
Your only job? To notice the signs — and honour what’s real.
Need Help Spotting the Red (and Green) Flags?
That’s what I do.
At Match Me Canada, I help smart, emotionally intelligent singles navigate dating with clarity and confidence — so they stop wasting time on almosts and start building something real.
✅ One-on-one coaching
✅ Online dating strategy
✅ Full dating profile support
✅ Real talk, real results
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About Rebecca
I’m Rebecca Cooper Traynor, founder of Match Me Canada. I’ve helped thousands of people across Canada find meaningful connections — not by teaching them how to “play the game,” but by helping them date as their real, confident selves.
Whether you’ve just started dating again, or you’re tired of the same patterns repeating, you don’t have to figure it out alone.
Want to Learn More First?
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- Online Dating Takeover Program
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- Why Your Dating Profile Isn’t Working (And How to Fix It)
In a Nutshell
Don’t date potential. Date people who are ready.
If you want help telling the difference — and finding someone who’s emotionally available and relationship-ready — Match Me Canada is here for it.
