Hey, singles! It’s Rebecca Cooper Traynor from Match Me Canada, your Toronto matchmaker with 15 years of experience, and today, I want to dive into something we all need to hear: Why dating someone different from your “usual type” is the best thing that could happen to you.
Let’s start with a little reality check: If your “type” hasn’t been working for you, it’s time to switch things up. Trust me, I’ve been there. I used to go for guys who were funny, charming—and completely unavailable. There was something about the chase, the idea that if I just tried a little harder, they’d eventually give me the love I wanted. But guess what? I was setting myself up for disappointment.
Why? Because I was comfortable in that space—comfortable being the one who had to chase, who had to work for attention. And here’s the kicker: I didn’t realize how unhealthy that was until I had to step back and take a hard look at why I kept repeating the same patterns.
Fast forward to my matchmaking work in Toronto with Match Me Canada, and I see this story all the time. Singles chasing the same unavailable types over and over, getting the same results—disappointment, frustration, and feeling like they’re never enough. But what happens when you start dating someone different? Someone who actually shows up for you, someone who makes you a priority? That’s when real magic starts to happen.
And yes, I get it—it can feel weird at first. When you’re used to dating people who keep you guessing, the “good guy” can feel almost boring. But let me tell you, that’s just your brain adjusting to something healthier. You’re used to the drama, the chase, the uncertainty—and that’s exactly what’s been holding you back from finding real love.
Here’s what you need to do: Step out of your comfort zone. The next time someone comes along who makes an effort, who’s consistent, who’s emotionally available—don’t run. Lean in. Get curious about why this feels different. That uncomfortable feeling? It’s growth. It’s you breaking old patterns and learning to trust in something real.
So, the next time you catch yourself thinking, “He’s nice, but he’s not my type,” ask yourself: Is my type actually working for me? If not, maybe it’s time to give the good guy a chance. The guy who texts back, who plans dates, who makes you feel seen.
That’s the kind of love you deserve. So, let’s stop chasing unavailable and start choosing what’s healthy.
Stay open, stay curious, and trust the process.
Rebecca Cooper Traynor
Match Me Canada
