Look at you, showing up and putting yourself out there. Love that for you.
I’m Rebecca, Canada’s no-BS dating coach, and I know the exact moment you panic. The match happens, and then… nothing. You stare at the screen, overthinking it until the spark dies before it even starts.
Here’s the truth. The first message doesn’t have to be clever or groundbreaking. It just needs to be warm, curious, and human.
Let me tell you about Matt. He’s one of my favorite clients. Kind, thoughtful, and cute as heck. But every match started with “Hey” or “What’s up?” No one replied. Once we changed that to openers like “Okay, I need to know the story behind that dog pic,” his matches turned into real conversations. Dates followed. Progress happened.
Here’s What to Say Instead of “Hey”
- Reference something specific.
“I see you’re into hiking. Are we talking local trails or full-on mountain goat?” - Use playful curiosity.
“Pineapple on pizza. Dealbreaker or underrated genius move?” - Give them something to respond to.
“I’m always down for a good debate. Friends or Seinfeld?”
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