Hi loves! It’s Rebecca Cooper Traynor from Match Me Canada—your matchmaker, dating coach, and advocate for healthy, empowering love. Today, I want to talk about something that gets in the way of real connection: abandoning yourself in relationships.
Here’s the thing: love should never come at the cost of your own identity. But for so many of us, it’s easy to lose ourselves in the excitement of a new connection. We prioritize their needs, adapt to their preferences, and, without realizing it, forget who we are.
What Does Self-Abandonment Look Like?
- You Always Say Yes: Even when you want to say no, you agree to keep the peace.
- You Lose Your Voice: You avoid sharing your feelings because you’re afraid it might push them away.
- You Stop Prioritizing Yourself: Your passions, friendships, and self-care take a backseat to the relationship.
Why Does This Happen?
Self-abandonment often stems from fear—fear of being alone, fear of rejection, or fear that you’re not enough. But here’s the truth: love that requires you to give up who you are isn’t real love.
How to Reclaim Yourself in Relationships
- Get Clear on Your Needs
What do you truly want in a relationship? Write it down, and don’t compromise. - Practice Boundaries
Learn to say no with love. Your time and energy are valuable. - Stay Connected to Yourself
Keep doing the things that bring you joy, even when you’re in a relationship. - Communicate Openly
Healthy relationships thrive on honesty. Share your feelings and needs with your partner.
Final Thoughts
A great relationship doesn’t require you to abandon yourself. It celebrates who you are and encourages you to grow. If you’re ready to find a connection that supports the best version of you, let’s chat! Book a call with me here, and let’s create a dating strategy that honors your worth.
With love and empowerment,
Rebecca Cooper Traynor
Match Me Canada
