Hi loves! It’s Rebecca Cooper Traynor from Match Me Canada—your matchmaker, dating coach, and go-to expert for navigating the emotional rollercoaster of modern dating. Let’s talk about something that’s as real as it gets: when loneliness feels like love.
Loneliness has a way of playing tricks on us. It can make us cling to the wrong people, ignore red flags, and even settle for less than we deserve. But here’s the truth: love and loneliness are not the same thing. And learning to tell the difference is the key to finding a relationship that truly fulfills you.
Why Loneliness Tricks Us
- It Creates Urgency
Loneliness whispers, “You need someone now,” even when waiting might lead to something better. - It Romanticizes the Wrong People
Loneliness can make you see potential where there isn’t any. That flakey texter? They’re not a mystery; they’re just not interested. - It Feels Like Safety
Being with someone—even the wrong person—can feel safer than being alone. But true safety comes from being aligned with someone who matches your values.
How to Break Free
- Focus on Your Needs
Ask yourself: is this relationship adding to my life or just filling a void? - Don’t Rush
Take time to build connections that feel grounded and genuine. - Lean Into Your Worth
You deserve more than a temporary fix. Wait for the connection that feels like home.
