Hey fabulous singles! It’s Rebecca Cooper Traynor from Match Me Canada—your modern-day matchmaker, dating coach, and go-to gal for all things love. For over 15 years, I’ve been helping people find their person, and let me tell you: the secret to success in love often starts with one little word—YES.
Now, let’s talk real. Love doesn’t always show up the way you expect it to. Sometimes it’s not your type, it’s not wrapped in the perfect package, and it doesn’t fit into the tidy little checklist you’ve been holding onto since college. And that’s okay—because surprise love is often the best kind of love. But here’s the problem: so many of us get stuck in a loop of saying no. No to new people, no to the unknown, no to anything that doesn’t scream “ideal partner.”
And here’s the kicker: those nos? They’re the walls between you and the love you’re searching for. The best relationships—the ones that blow your mind and change your life—are waiting for you on the other side of uncertainty. All you have to do is lean into it and say YES.
Why Are You Saying No?
Before we dive into why yes is so powerful, let’s address the reasons you might be saying no.
- Brain Chatter Overload
You know that inner monologue that runs the show when you’re dating? The one that’s like, “He’s too short,” or “She’s into hiking, and I don’t even own sneakers”? That’s not intuition—that’s overthinking. Your brain is a master at finding reasons to say no, but love? Love doesn’t live in your brain. - Fear of Rejection
Saying yes means putting yourself out there, and that can feel scary. What if they’re not interested? What if it doesn’t work out? Here’s the truth: every yes is a step closer to the connection you want. Love always involves a little risk—it’s what makes it so rewarding. - Stuck in Your Patterns
Let’s get real: if you’re always dating the same type of person and it’s not working, maybe it’s time to shake things up. Saying yes to someone outside your usual type doesn’t mean settling; it means expanding your possibilities.
What Happens When You Say Yes
So what’s on the other side of your yes? Let me break it down for you:
- More Possibilities
Every yes opens a door. It’s a chance to meet someone amazing, even if it’s not love at first sight. It could be a connection, a new friend, or even just a great story to tell. - More Confidence
Saying yes builds emotional courage. Every time you step outside your comfort zone, you’re proving to yourself that you can handle the unknown—and that’s powerful. - More Connection
When you say yes, you’re giving love a chance to find you. You’re creating space for connection, growth, and maybe even the kind of relationship that changes your life.
How to Start Saying Yes
- Separate Fear from Intuition
When you’re tempted to say no, pause. Ask yourself: is this a genuine no from your gut, or is it fear dressed up as logic? Intuition is calm; fear is noisy. - Adopt a ‘Why Not?’ Attitude
Instead of focusing on reasons to say no, start asking, “Why not?” What’s the worst that could happen? Spoiler: it’s probably not as bad as you think. - Say Yes to People You’d Normally Overlook
Be honest—are you writing people off for silly reasons? Take a chance on someone who doesn’t check every box but has potential. You might just be surprised.
Let’s Take the Leap Together
Saying yes to love is an act of courage. It means stepping into the unknown, trusting yourself, and being open to possibilities you can’t predict. And the payoff? It could be the best relationship of your life.
If you’re ready to start saying yes but feel stuck, I’m here to help. Book a call with me here, and let’s create a dating strategy that brings you closer to the connection you’re craving.
With love and a nudge to take the leap,
Rebecca Cooper Traynor
Match Me Canada
