When you finally find a partner you click with, no distance seems like too much to manage, at least initially. However, no matter how much effort you put into keeping the heat on, long separations are challenging—but they can be exciting too!
The anticipation to see one another again can be incredibly explosive—but it doesn’t work for everybody. With all the effort needed to keep things on track, you might find yourself wondering whether the relationship will survive. But if you’re both committed and aligned to the same goals, it can work!
The ultimate goal for most long-distance lovers is to one day live closer to one another or even together. So do make plans, but don’t just talk about the future. Instead, focus on what’s going on “in the now” and continue to build your bond.
Tips for Surviving a Long-Distance Romance
During the pandemic, many couples found themselves either separated across borders or caring for family members who needed them. Other relationships become long-distance when one partner has to move for work temporarily.
But if you have established a relationship with someone you want to keep, you need to have a frank discussion about your relationship goals and make sure you areon the same page before the person (or yourself) moves on.
Hopefully, it’s just a matter of time before you’re back together again; but in the meantime, we’ve got some tips to help you make it through.
1. Communication is The Key To Connection
Communication is one of the most vital structures in any relationship, and it’s even more critical when you’re apart. Of course, every couple is different, but you should establish a routine that respects each other’s comfort level. You don’t have to be connected every minute of the day, but be sure you keep your commitments to avoid unnecessary anxiety.
Keep the other person in the loop about your daily life, the little things, and the big things. They want to feel included, so share what you’re going through each day, including the vulnerabilities. But be conscious not to contact them too much as you don’t want them to feel smothered. Having an honest conversation about expectations around communication will add a lot of value to your relationship.
2. Be There For Them
You might find yourself on the receiving end of emotional messages. While they might not be related to a major tragedy, they’re still important. Just as you would comfort your loved one at the end of a tough day or help them through challenges, you need to be there for them when they need you. Even if you can’t break away for a long talk, let them know their message got through and that you’re with them in spirit. Respond right away; sometimes that’s all that’s needed.
3. Don’t Let the Separation Consume Your Life
While your partner is away, don’t let this take over every waking hour. You should still enjoy your home, your neighbourhood, your family, and your friends as you usually do. No matter how inseparable you were before the long-distance aspect of your relationship began, you can’t lose yourself in longing. Focus on the here and now. Enjoy your life, your home, and your surroundings.
4. Include Them In Your Daily Life
Send photos of something you saw that reminded you of them, photos of yourself, or maybe something you cooked that you know they’d appreciate. It’s about letting them know that you’re thinking about them and want to include them in the things that bring you joy.
5. Make Time for Romance
Video dates are a great way to stay connected, and there are lots of really fun, creative things you can do to make your dates more enjoyable. For example, you could plan a dinner and dancing date. Get dressed up as if you were meeting at a nice restaurant. Plan to enjoy the same meal and have the same wine on hand. If you’re cooking, you can talk and cook together—and don’t forget to flirt!
6. Connect Often
Make an effort to see one another often, face-to-face, even if you can only do that through video. Plan dates ahead of time, but you can also surprise them with impromptu video calls from time to time.
7. Old School Romance
Everybody loves getting something in the mail! It could be a thoughtful card about how much they mean to you, a gift you bought them, or a postcard with a sweet message of love.
8. The Sound of Your Voice
Send them a voice message, something they can listen to time and time again. It could be something you leave on their voice mail or a voice recording you send by text. Sometimes the sound of your voice is enough to fill the heart with joy.