Before we dig deep into this topic, let me share that dating does take time. You need to—and should expect to—invest time for it to be successful. For most, dating is a searching process. You’re not just finding out about the other person in the equation; you’re also learning about yourself. Knowing ourselves is what ultimately leads us to who we are meant to meet.
Are You Ready?
If you are not willing to invest your time into dating, you are likely not ready to be in a relationship. Dating is not a waste of time, but you need to have the right attitude to understand this.
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Dating requires having a thick skin, not taking things personally, and understanding that you may meet many people that are simply not a match for you. But, all it takes is one; and this “one” is the reason you have invested so much time and effort to meet.
Are You Wasting Your Time? Tips for Making Better Dating Choices
When dating, most people are looking for a person they consider to be their “type. ”But often, that “type” is not actually well-suited for them; it’s just what they’re used to. Good or bad, it feels comfortable and familiar, which is why people tend to stay on this path—but it’s also why they’re not getting the results they want.
Your time is valuable. Why spend it on things or people that aren’t going to bring you closer to your goals? We want to help you make better choices for yourself! Here’s how to know if you are wasting or investing your time in a relationship:
Signs You’re Wasting Your Time
- Not able to communicate effectively with the other person, and no realistic chance of that ever changing
- Seeing big red flags and not feeling it in your gut, but choosing to ignore the signs
- You have little or even nothing in common
- You like the way they look, but that’s about the extent of it
- One of you is much more interested than the other
- The relationship is based on sex alone; there is no real relationship
- They are not interested in introducing you to their friends or family
Signs You’re Investing Your Time
- You are always interested in learning more about this person
- You feel good and happy when you are around them
- You have some things in common
- You communicate easily or are actively working at communicating effectively
- You are interested in each other
- You are taking steps to become apart of each other’s lives
- You have similar relationship goals
What To Do Next
It’s a tough moment when you discover that you might be in a relationship with someone you don’t have a real future with. It’s scary to end things when you feel like maybe there isn’t anyone else out there for you.
Most times, however, this reflects how you feel about yourself; it’s not really about the other person at all.
If you find yourself in this dilemma, take a step back. First, you need to love yourself and know your worth before getting into a relationship. Otherwise, you’ll be second-guessing yourself every step of the way. Then, once you are in a good place, you will make better choices for yourself.
Love yourself first. Only then will you have room in your heart and life to allow another to love you too.
Investing time into a relationship feels good! But, it should be someone who shares your vision, your desire for happiness, and that you share common interests with. Dating challenges you to look beyond the surface, to find commonalities, and listen to your instinct. Just because it’s familiar doesn’t always mean it’s “right.”
Are you ready to meet your match? Book a call today to find out how to get started.